| Great Relationships are a step beyond "good | | | | lay down those prejudices right now and take up |
| relationships" because the "ordinary myths" about | | | | your marriage together as true and complete |
| relationships need to be broken to get to that | | | | equals. |
| "extraordinary" level of "Greatness." If you are | | | | You'll get MUCH farther in your goal to have a |
| OK with ho-hum relationships, that's fine. Go for it. | | | | Great Relationship and true satisfaction and |
| But if you want something really powerful and | | | | happiness in life with a partner (and in all other |
| deep, you've got to go beyond the "ordinary." | | | | areas of life as well) if you will simply lay aside the |
| You've got to set aside your prejudices about | | | | useless prejudicial distinctions between men and |
| men and women and relationships and marriage. | | | | women, old and young, creeds and colors. If you |
| You've got to set aside all the media and movie | | | | insist on those kinds of discriminations, you are |
| hype and statistics and court cases. You've got to | | | | going to greatly inhibit your ability to get the kind |
| set aside the "Hollywood" vision of marriage and | | | | of incredible, dramatic transformation that is |
| relationship. All that stuff is just garbage that will | | | | required for a Great Relationship. |
| be in your way! | | | | Why hang on to things which are completely in |
| But first you have to surrender your ideas that | | | | your way? Come on and join those of us who |
| there are differences in the core needs of men | | | | are eliminating these harmful and wasteful ways |
| and women, and that there are differences in the | | | | of thinking from our thinking and behavior. Men |
| capacity and basic, inborn skill of men and women | | | | and women are created as complete souls in the |
| to be in relationships. | | | | eyes of the divine, neither is a superior being, and |
| That we think or believe that way is due to | | | | both are of absolute individual value. |
| cultural stereotyping. I'd like to ask you to put | | | | As you will see, this principle of equality is going to |
| those ideas out of your head. Great Relationships | | | | challenge you far more than you suspect right |
| proceed from the concept of total Relationship | | | | now. It is a very large change in our world and is |
| Equality and that in our true, core being, there is | | | | meeting significant resistance from both men and |
| very little difference between individuals in what | | | | women. But that's temporary, and you can decide |
| we all want from relationships. At our true, core | | | | whether to sit stubbornly at the station and |
| self, that part of us that wants love, | | | | watch the rest of us ride away, or you can join |
| understanding and connection, it does not matter | | | | us. |
| whether we are man or woman, old or young, | | | | Please join with your spouse or relationship |
| nor what color or creed we come from. | | | | partner rather than struggling with outmoded and |
| In 25 years of working with families and couples I | | | | childish notions of difference between you, and |
| can say that I truly believe and have observed | | | | start by letting go of your of these old mental |
| that men and women are basically equal in | | | | attitudes. |
| --What they need in relationships --their core | | | | Just think of your partner or spouse as a person |
| needs | | | | just like you are, an individual, and not someone |
| --Ability to learn and absorb the skills necessary | | | | "different" from you who "could never understand |
| for Great Relationships | | | | you." But rather as someone you can completely |
| --Their ability to think, feel, understand and work | | | | relate to as an individual who is in the most |
| with the Secrets of Great Relationships | | | | important ways in life just like you. |
| If you have a problem with this, or think that, for | | | | If you do, you'll notice an immediate relief and |
| example, women are superior in expression of | | | | much more freedom to relate to your partner or |
| feelings, or men in the expression of thinking-- or | | | | spouse as a true individual -- and be on your way |
| other such stereotypical views, I ask you each to | | | | to the possibility of a Great Relationship! |