| Great Relationships are a step beyond "good | | | | expression of feelings, or men in the |
| relationships" because the "ordinary myths" | | | | expression of thinking-- or other such |
| about relationships need to be broken to get | | | | stereotypical views, I ask you each to lay |
| to that "extraordinary" level of "Greatness." | | | | down those prejudices right now and take up |
| If you are OK with ho-hum relationships, | | | | your marriage together as true and complete |
| that's fine. Go for it. | | | | equals. |
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| But if you want something really powerful and | | | | You'll get MUCH farther in your goal to have |
| deep, you've got to go beyond the "ordinary." | | | | a Great Relationship and true satisfaction |
| | | | and happiness in life with a partner (and in |
| You've got to set aside your prejudices about | | | | all other areas of life as well) if you will |
| men and women and relationships and marriage. | | | | simply lay aside the useless prejudicial |
| You've got to set aside all the media and | | | | distinctions between men and women, old and |
| movie hype and statistics and court cases. | | | | young, creeds and colors. If you insist on |
| You've got to set aside the "Hollywood" | | | | those kinds of discriminations, you are going |
| vision of marriage and relationship. All | | | | to greatly inhibit your ability to get the |
| that stuff is just garbage that will be in | | | | kind of incredible, dramatic transformation |
| your way! | | | | that is required for a Great Relationship. |
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| But first you have to surrender your ideas | | | | Why hang on to things which are completely in |
| that there are differences in the core needs | | | | your way? Come on and join those of us who |
| of men and women, and that there are | | | | are eliminating these harmful and wasteful |
| differences in the capacity and basic, inborn | | | | ways of thinking from our thinking and |
| skill of men and women to be in | | | | behavior. Men and women are created as |
| relationships. | | | | complete souls in the eyes of the divine, |
| | | | neither is a superior being, and both are of |
| That we think or believe that way is due to | | | | absolute individual value. |
| cultural stereotyping. I'd like to ask you | | | | |
| to put those ideas out of your head. Great | | | | As you will see, this principle of equality |
| Relationships proceed from the concept of | | | | is going to challenge you far more than you |
| total Relationship Equality and that in our | | | | suspect right now. It is a very large change |
| true, core being, there is very little | | | | in our world and is meeting significant |
| difference between individuals in what we all | | | | resistance from both men and women. But |
| want from relationships. At our true, core | | | | that's temporary, and you can decide whether |
| self, that part of us that wants love, | | | | to sit stubbornly at the station and watch |
| understanding and connection, it does not | | | | the rest of us ride away, or you can join us. |
| matter whether we are man or woman, old or | | | | |
| young, nor what color or creed we come from. | | | | Please join with your spouse or relationship |
| | | | partner rather than struggling with outmoded |
| In 25 years of working with families and | | | | and childish notions of difference between |
| couples I can say that I truly believe and | | | | you, and start by letting go of your of these |
| have observed that men and women are | | | | old mental attitudes. |
| basically equal in | | | | |
| | | | Just think of your partner or spouse as a |
| --What they need in relationships --their | | | | person just like you are, an individual, and |
| core needs | | | | not someone "different" from you who "could |
| | | | never understand you." But rather as someone |
| --Ability to learn and absorb the skills | | | | you can completely relate to as an individual |
| necessary for Great Relationships | | | | who is in the most important ways in life |
| | | | just like you. |
| --Their ability to think, feel, understand | | | | |
| and work with the Secrets of Great | | | | If you do, you'll notice an immediate relief |
| Relationships | | | | and much more freedom to relate to your |
| | | | partner or spouse as a true individual -- and |
| If you have a problem with this, or think | | | | be on your way to the possibility of a Great |
| that, for example, women are superior in | | | | Relationship! |