| As your college student is settling into
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| | many choices about courses, assignments,
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| the dorm, are you discovering that
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| | extra curricular activities. Be
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| letting go is more difficult than you
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| | supportive, but let them make their own
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| imagined? Even with the pressures you
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| | decisions and then deal with whatever
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| feel as a member of the Sandwich
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| | consequences occur. It's been said
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| Generation, are you ambivalent about
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| | before, but experience is a great
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| cutting the apron strings?
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| | teacher.
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| You may be stuck in a new phenomenon that
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| | 4. Make sure that parents' weekend is on
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| falls under the colorful moniker,
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| | your agenda. It's a natural and positive
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| Helicopter Parent. If you find yourself
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| | means by which to feel reassured that
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| 'hovering' over your kidult, attempting
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| | your children are adjusting to their new
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| to protect him or her from life's ups and
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| | home environment.
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| downs, you fit the description.
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| | 5. Resist taking on chores that now
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| Is it technology - cell phones, email and
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| | should fall to your kidults. As much as
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| instant messaging - as some say, that
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| | washing their clothes and cleaning their
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| keeps parents overly involved, or is
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| | rooms have been part of your job
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| something else at work? Maria worries,
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| | description for years, it's now time to
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| "I'm far too enmeshed with my daughter
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| | pass the baton.
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| and afraid of keeping her closer than is
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| | 6. Focus on your kidult's positive
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| healthy. I'm trying to step back and
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| | qualities and think of reasons to support
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| minimize our contact - for the emotional
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| | their unique ideas. Remember that they
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| growth of both of us." Like Maria, you
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| | are learning more about the joys and
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| can do this, too.
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| | responsibilities of independence.
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| 1. If you want information, contact the
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| | 7. Take courses so that you have some
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| parent-relations specialist that many
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| | common areas of interest with your
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| colleges now employ. The telephone
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| | children. Or better yet, enroll in the
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| hotlines and email support services they
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| | college classes you want and follow your
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| provide allow you to stay connected in a
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| | own dreams.
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| healthy way.
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| | In the end, having your emerging adult
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| 2. Adjustment to communal living -
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| | children be accountable for their own
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| roommates, dorms, personality differences
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| | actions facilitates their personal
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| - takes time. Be more supportive and
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| | development, sense of self-sufficiency
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| less directive as your sons and daughters
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| | and positive self-esteem. Isn't that
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| learn new problem solving skills.
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| | what you really want anyway?
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| 3. Your adult children will be faced with
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